A New Man With New Behaviors
A practical and empathetic guide to cultivating a virtuous life as the vital second stage of recovery.
Beyond Cessation: The Journey to Virtue
Ceasing addictive behavior is a monumental first step. This guide was born from the personal necessity of answering the question: what comes next? It offers a structured path to unlearn the behaviors that enable addiction and intentionally cultivate the virtues that build a life of integrity, connection, and peace.
A Synthesis of Wisdom
Integrates practical methods from Twelve-Step Recovery, Dharma Recovery, the Judaic practice of Mussar, and Stoic philosophy.
Practical & Actionable
A hands-on framework using daily journaling, reflection worksheets, and sponsor guidance to build virtue "bite by bite."
A Collection of Virtues
This guide focuses on twelve key virtues relevant to overcoming addictive patterns, rebuilding trust, and fostering emotional well-being.
Humility
Honesty
Gratitude
Self-Control
Mindfulness
Patience
Integrity
Compassion
Healthy Boundaries
Responsibility
Vulnerability
Respect
Downloadable Worksheets
These resources are designed to support your practice. Download, print, and use them on your journey of virtue cultivation.
Virtue Study Prioritization Worksheet
Download PDFDaily Journaling Prompts
Download PDFVirtue Reflection Worksheets
About the Author
Bob Wenzlau
This guide emerged from personal necessity. It is a living document born from an ongoing journey of recovery and a desire to grow beyond the person that addiction created. Bob wrote this guide first and foremost for his family, "that they may know my work to become a virtuous person."
His journey has taught him that virtue is not a destination but a dedicated practice, earned "bite by bite" through consistent effort. This book is the framework he built to support that profound, and often difficult, work.
Contact the Author
Your story and reflections are welcome. Please feel free to share your thoughts or ask questions about the guide. This is a shared journey.